Drafted August 2, 2026.
Revised September 1 and October 21, 2026. 

A few months ago I saw this Substack note from a newsletter author who I otherwise really like that stuck in my craw:

I’ve had difficulty articulating why it’s bothered me so much. I think it’s because I’m so sick of feeling like I have to answer for my ex-husband. Like, expecting a queer woman to disclose their ex-husband on a dating profile has some real Scarlet Letter vibes.